Tuesday, March 27, 2012

REVIEW: Kids Beyond Limits by Anat Baniel

Note: The following review assumes you've heard of the Anat Baniel Method (ABM). It is the primary methodology we use with Malachi and we've found it to be very compelling, though we are not without criticisms. If you follow the linked text above, you can read everything I've written on the subject.





So, I had very much hoped that I would have finished reading Anat Baniel's new book Kids Beyond Limits: The Anat Baniel Method for Awakening the Brain and Transforming the Life of Your Child With Special Needs by today, its release date, but I have to admit that I haven't. I've read most of it and skimmed through the rest.

I received an advance copy to review about a month ago and the bottom line is that I absolutely love it. But even though the book is short, only 288 pages, it has taken me an incredibly long time to read it. That's because it's just packed with things that, well, kinda blow my mind. I've found I have to put the book down at least every chapter to think about how I can integrate its philosophy into my life and the way I deal with Malachi. And I definitely can't read it before bed or I will be up all night thinking about it.

So it's been slow going. But I know for a fact I will read it through again as soon as I finish. And I will make everyone who interacts with Malachi read it. And, if I can, all of you people read it.

If you happen to have read Anat Baniel's first book, Move into Life: The Nine Essentials for Lifelong Vitality, you already know her so-called Nine Essentials: Movement with Attention, The Learning Switch, Subtlety, Variation, Slow, Enthusiasm, Flexible Goals, Imagination and Awareness. These are also the basis of her new book, but I found Kids Beyond Limits to have much more practical advice, useful anecdotes and personal insights. It also seems to reference many more scientific studies than I recall from Move Into Life, and has extensive footnotes. For anyone who enjoyed Norman Doidge's The Brain That Changes Itself: Stories of Personal Triumph from the Frontiers of Brain Science, I would consider this a practical guide to that inspiring round-up of neuroplasticity success stories.

What I really loved was that Baniel describes in detail what is going through her mind as she treats kids with special needs and it helped me realize that more than anything the Anat Baniel Method is about how you treat kids with special needs rather than what particular movements you do. Therefore, I really consider this a book that anyone and everyone who interacts with special needs kids should read.

For others, the titles of the Nine Essentials alone might be enough to help them remember what to do in their daily interactions with kids. But for me, I've found more success with pulling out some key phrases that I repeat to myself as I interact with Malachi. Here are a few:


What is obvious to me is not obvious to him. Parents know instinctually that this is true in certain cases. For example, just about everyone would know to keep a newly crawling baby away from ledges. Even though the consequences of gravity are obvious to everyone else, the baby has not yet learned this. Baniel takes this concept a step further and shows how kids — all kids, but particularly those with special needs — are not aware of things that we consider to be obvious and this is the source of much of their dysfunction. For my son, this means that even though he arches his back all the time, he might not actually be aware that that is what he is doing and that it prevents him from accomplishing things like rolling over. So, I've started to play a game with him called "arch, flat, curl" where I playfully point out what he's doing and even accentuate it a little bit with my hands. This has very quickly taught him the difference between these states and he can now curl over to lay on his side pretty much whenever he wants to.

How can I "differentiate around the edges"? Baniel uses the phrase "differentiate around the edges" a lot and by it she means that you start with something the child can already do well and then see how you can build on that — slowly and incrementally. I'm finding this to be easiest to apply in my verbalizations. I have always babbled along with Malachi and Jaden, but now I can add in a slightly different vowel sound or play with my tongue a little more and see if they follow along. Very often, they do, and Malachi has even begun to push his tongue out the left side of his mouth, which he has never done before.

Sloooooow. OK, so this is just the title of one of the Nine Essentials, but it's very useful and easy if you can remember to do it. Just slow down. I take a few beats longer to turn the page, or wait a little longer after pointing to an object they know the word for or take 10 seconds to pick him up from the floor instead of five. What's the rush?

Require less evidence to be happy for his growth. Yes, I did just see Malachi's leg move in a way I haven't before. It's OK to be happy about that. I don't need to have him repeat it immediately to prove it to me and I don't need to keep those happy feelings in a penalty box in my head just in case he never makes that movement again. Neither do I need to wait to be happy until I see him incorporate that leg movement into rolling over. I saw him do it with my own two eyes and he's never done it before. That's enough.

Concentrate more on the process and less on the outcome. This one is really hard for me. Like, really, really, really hard. I'm constantly fighting back voices that say: "If there are no outcomes, what's the point?" But I feel like there is something very valuable there so I'm going to keep working at it. As Anat herself says, if she were required to directly "make" a child perform a certain way, she would have no idea how to do it. She just concentrates on improving their quality of movement and the rest takes care of itself.

Wonder what he'll do next. This one has been great and I've been really surprised and delighted at the results. Whenever I catch myself about to "help" him, I still my mind for a second and wonder, with rapt attention, what he'll do next. More often than not he does something useful or unexpected. For example, today, he was trying to roll onto his side to get a small toy car. He was straining and tensing his legs so much that he would never get fully onto his side. Normally, I would pick up his top leg and push it over towards where he wanted to go. This time I just watched for a second. Then, very gently, I poked his hip and wondered what would happen. Almost immediately, he brought both of his legs up and curled his body to get much closer to the toy car. I didn't even realize for a second or two that that was my desired outcome because I was so intent on simply observing. And the best part was that it came from him which — obviously, but it wasn't really obvious to me before! — is where all of his movements are ever going to come from.


So with all of these lessons and many more, is Malachi's progressing? Without a doubt, yes. In the month since I've gotten this book, Malachi has learned to roll onto his tummy and belly crawl a bit and he is also showing a lot more variety in movement and enjoyment in moving. I'm certain that this $10 book is more useful to me and Malachi than our $3,000+ trip to the Anat Baniel Method Center in San Rafael or at least that if we'd had it we would have gotten a whole lot more bang for our buck.

I would be lying if I said it's not difficult. I struggle with it everyday and still get overly frustrated with myself — and with him. I struggle with how to be discerning without being judgmental and I struggle with how I'm supposed to help him recognize useful actions without imposing on his creativity. There are also several things in the book that make me realize that many of my well-intentioned attitudes and actions towards Malachi (a big one being asking him to repeat his success) have had the complete opposite effect than the one I intended.

But the bottom line is that this approach makes me happier and by extension Malachi. The fact that it also works is almost icing on the cake.

Almost.

7 comments:

  1. Clearly I need to read this then pass it on to school. The whole idea of "proving" and "testing" and forced repetition has always made me a little crazy, even though, yes, I understand the school has to prove they're doing their job. Yuck. Aidan communicates so much in his refusals, as if to say, "hey, I did it once now leave me alone." And the slooooow thing is just so hard. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Yes! I don't know what I'm going to do once Malachi reaches school age. I'll be the crazy mom running around after all the teachers pleading with them to read this book.

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  2. Sounds like a fantastic book! Speaking of books I finished yours last night and my review is in! It was great! Well written and I think you might have to consider doing another.

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    1. Hooray!! I'm so glad you liked it! Please, please tell your friends!

      And yes, I would love to write another! Where are those benevolent investors when you need them?

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  3. Sounds very interesting, I am going to have to check it out! I was curious if you have ever heard of Glenn Doman and The Institutes for the Achievement of Human Potential? I am not sure how it may be similar or different, it's just something that I've learned of recently and thought I would mention it.

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    1. I have heard of Glenn Doman. I've never bought his book(s) because what I've read about them makes me feel like it would encourage my already-present tendency to go overboard in micromanaging Malachi's movements. But, that's just an impression I formed a long time ago when I was researching books.

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  4. Focus on the neurological processes, instead of the grunting muscular end results (behaviors), is surely key to the Baniel magic here! God bless Anat Baniel, and Moshe Feldenkrais. /Arthur /arthur.gillman@gmail.com

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